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Both men and women rank sharing household chores as the third most important ingredient in our recipe for a successful marriage, right behind faithfulness and good sex. Yet the latest data tells us that in dual-earner couples, mom is still doing more housework and more childcare than dad does. Surprisingly, when […]
I am so fed up with advice from people telling women that if they just make the right personal choices at the right time in the right order then there is no problem fitting career, marriage, and kids into our lives.
That’s a load of crap. If anyone had been able to figure out a […]
Soon after we had our daughter, I read that elderly women receive far lower Social Security benefits than men due largely to motherhood. Having just become one, I visited the Social Security Administration website. At the top of the page, they reassured me “Social Security is neutral with respect to gender.”
I proceeded to […]
Ending the Chore Wars on The Intentional Parent
By Solstice72 On February 29, 2012 · Leave a Comment · In Assumptions about Mothers, Family, Family Work, Fatherhood, Interview, Marriage, Motherhood, Remodeling Motherhood, Remodeling Motherhood Tips
Today I had great fun as a guest on The Intentional Parent TV chatting with Tina Bryson and Greg Matuskiewicz. We talked about why mothers and fathers today still end up in a tug of war over who does what around the house and who’s working harder – and most importantly we […]
Our Favorite New Year’s Tradition – Making Resolutions Together (Repost)
By Solstice72 On December 26, 2011 · Leave a Comment · In Career, Career-Life Fit, Family, Family Work, Fatherhood, Holidays, Kids & School, Marriage, Money, Mothers & Fathers, Parenting, Resolutions
I’ve always been a New Year’s Resolutions sort of person, but the process became so much more powerful about ten years ago when my husband and I started making them together. Our New Year’s Resolutions ritual was one of many experiences that helped me realize one of the key points of my book, This […]
As families across the country face a week (or more!) with kids out of school, parents who may or may not have days off themselves, and competing demands for who wants to do what with their time, I thought I’d share a facilitation tool I’ve adapted for our family when we have extended family […]
“Tell people what to do and they’ll take responsibility for the task. Tell them Why they’re doing it and they’ll take responsibility for the solution.”
This quote I got via email from Simon Sinek, author of Start with Why, is a great reminder for mothers and fathers of […]
Tax Day Question: Can I Make Enough to Pay for Childcare?
By Solstice72 On April 17, 2011 · 3 Comments · In Economy, Marriage, Money, Motherhood, Remodeling Motherhood
When our daughter was born, my husband had just started his second year at a law firm and I had just been laid off from a part-time job. We sat down together to decide whether I should look for a new job or not. The question we asked ourselves was, “Could I make enough to […]
Creating a Family Vision: Part 2
By Solstice72 On February 8, 2011 · 2 Comments · In Holidays, Marriage, Recommendations, Remodeling Motherhood Tips
In “Creating a Family Vision” I described how my husband, daughter and I spent part of our vacation in January creating vision board collages. We each thought about the day of our daughter’s high school graduation and then collected magazine images that reflected our feelings and […]
Shifting Attitudes on Marriage
By Solstice72 On November 20, 2010 · Leave a Comment · In Fatherhood, Marriage, Motherhood, News & Commentary
Fascinating short Washington Post summary of the Time Magazine/Pew Poll on shifting attitudes toward marriage. Including this little tidbit listed at the end of the article that has major implications for workplaces, schools and families.
-About 62 percent say that the best marriage is one where the husband and wife both work and […]
David and I got a bit concerned about our own marriage this weekend when we read this New York Times article, Brant vs Brant: Divorce Celebrity Style, and noted the uncanny similarities between us and the Brants. You see, Peter Brant is a billionaire with his own polo team and Stephanie Seymour […]
My book, This is Not How I Thought It Would Be: Remodeling Motherhood to Get the Lives We Want Today, tells the story of my journey navigating the changes in every aspect of my life after we had our daughter nine years ago.
I have recently admitted to myself […]
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Why We Remodeled Our Wedding Vows as Parents
In the New York Times piece “Till Death, or 20 Years, Do Us Part” Matt Richtel explores the meaning of marriage today, including proposals in Mexico City to create short-term renewable marriage contracts as brief as two years as a way to deal with how many marriages fail. Me, I’m not a fan […]