Share the action you’ll be taking in the next 7 days as a comment at the end of this post or over on my Facebook page.
Warmth and Competence
- Profile on Amy Cuddy, Harvard Magazine
- “Connect, Then Lead” Amy Cuddy, Harvard Business Review
- “When Professionals Become Mothers, Warmth Doesn’t Cut the Ice.” by Amy Cuddy
- How Stereotypes About Warmth and Competence Impact Mothers by Kristin Maschka
On Purpose, Identity, and Interrupting Bias
- “Women Rising: The Unseen Barriers” Harvard Business Review (A great article to share and discuss)
- Interventions that Affect Gender Bias in Hiring
- Hacking Tech’s Diversity Problem by Joan Williams (links to research on advertising jobs as “salary negotiable”)
- Hacking Sexism in the Time of Gamer Gate
- (Note: Both “tech” articles are applicable to all contexts.)
- Necessary Dreams: Ambition in Women’s Changing Lives by Anna Fels
- What Works for Women at Work by Joan Williams
- Remodeling Motherhood by Kristin Maschka
Apple, Facebook add coverage for egg-freezing to benefit plans, report says http://t.co/8oBw8NhXSW Apple, Facebook add coverage for egg-freezing to benefit plans, report says http://t.co/8oBw8NhXSW
— Los Angeles Times (@latimes) October 14, 2014
Let’s see, women find it difficult to get ahead in their careers at our companies so what should we do?
A. Advise and pay for a woman to go through two medical procedures (freezing eggs and then using the eggs) to bear a child.
B. Make changes to our workplaces to make it possible for people at various life stages to fit in human activity such as childbearing and childrearing, caring for elderly parents, and other very human pursuits.
If you are Apple and Facebook, the answer is A. But I hope the rest of us can see that “freezing eggs” as the solution is also A for Absurd.
The egg-freezing strategy means that Apple and Facebook are also saying “It’s up to each woman to plan her way through her worklife. If she doesn’t, then too bad, it’s her fault.” I have already taken to task individuals who advise women to freeze their eggs, not dreaming we would see companies offer to pay for it and then be praised for it. All of this implies women can simply plan and choose our way through today’s worklife challenges – marry the right guy, don’t lean back, choose a family friendly career, have kids early, have kids late, freeze your eggs, just ask for flexibility– and all of it actually prevents us from taking effective actions to change our workplaces and our public policies.
Add freezing eggs to the long list of absurd extremes companies will go to - provide meals, deliver drycleaning, provide childcare on site, and so on - to avoid having to question the flawed assumption that it is reasonable and human to expect that each and every person will work 50 hours a week, 50+ weeks a year, for 50 years of his or her life. Individually these types of services probably provide real benefit to some employees, but in aggregate the message is that as a company – and a society – we will do whatever it takes so we don’t have to change how we define the “ideal worker.”
How about another option?
C. Take this egg-freezing job and shove it.
I’ll be speaking in my hometown, Mankato MN, for the YWCA Mankato Women’s Leadership Conference on November 5th and 6th!
Early Bird registration closes this Friday October 10 so if you are in the area, register today!
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